Bulletin Five

Home The Real Law of Attraction CDs Life Essentials Seminar on DVD Learn to Meditate CD Course Other Products FREE Seminar Weekend Course Relationships Film About Michael Rowland Emagazine and Relationships Articles	*- Relationships Film –* *Written and Directed by Michael Domeyko Rowland* *www.lifeact.com* *Bulletin Five* In a couple of week’s time I will have a two CD pack on how to create a great relationship. This is a brand new recording, and released to the public after the film comes out. It will be filled with all the steps you need to create a relationship that continually becomes deeper, more connected and more loving. You will have the first opportunity to receive it, and if you would like to find out all about it, or reserve your copy, please email me now on this address: film@pnc.com.au and write CD in the subject line. It will be essential and extremely interesting information about relationships. ============================================ *Relationships:* It is possible by expressing one wrong, or misunderstood behaviour, to lose your whole relationship. It is well known that many relationships break down after the first unpleasant argument, with the person under attack thinking, ‘Oh no, I’m out of here, this isn’t going to work’. The one type of expression, which is guaranteed to destroy a relationship, is the sudden eruption of negative emotion. It is so toxic and poisonous, that it can immediately put an end to even a good relationship. What is it exactly and why does it occur? As you grow up, unless you have very conscious parents, you have no option but to suppress your natural expression. A child’s brain is not fully wired until they are twenty-one. Before puberty, children have very little control over themselves. They are little energy balls, going through continual growth spurts and other biological effects. When they behave in ways which are irritating or annoying to their parents or others, they are often forced to bury that behaviour. They are told off, or shouted at. This does not resolve or change the unwanted behaviour. It just gets buried. It is just like putting a cork back on a bottle of bubbling over champagne. You can stop it bubbling over, but you do not affect or eliminate the bubbles. You just hold them in the bottle. If this corking happens continually to a child, then the child builds a habit of suppression and repression of his or her emotions. Over time, and with the addition of continual burying of unwanted behaviours, the energy of these emotions then builds up. If a parent adds to that suppression of the child’s behaviours by shouting, insulting, abusing, degrading or ridiculing them, then this buried emotion becomes negative, and turns into anger, rage, sadness and fear. As we grow to adulthood, these negative emotions are locked in the subconscious. It is usually not until a person enters into a committed relationship, and the pressures involved with this, that the lid comes off, as the early patterns start to replay. If, as an adult, you suddenly have to face an unexpected outburst of negative emotion from your partner, it feels like a knife in the guts. Your defences automatically build towards that person. You cannot open yourself to them any more, as it is unsafe. This means that the curtain is drawn to intimacy and heart connection. It may be possible to forgive them if they are sorry about their behaviour, but if it happens again and again, then your subconscious will completely lock the door to any form of depth and energetic linkage with that person. Dealing with negative emotion is an essential part of becoming a fully conscious person, which is another way of saying someone who is able to have a fulfilling relationship. So, here are some ideas to help you become more able to deal with negative emotion: 1). If you are in a relationship with a person who expresses negative emotion, then you will need to become very conscious in order to deal with them. Being conscious is not the same as being loving. It means to develop more and more awareness of yourself, and your own behaviours, and ways of expressing yourself. It is necessary to observe your thoughts and feelings and the state you are in as much as you can. Become fully aware that you are a human instrument, like a piano, with each key being a different behaviour, and develop the ability to press any key you want, when you want, in the way you want. Whenever possible stay calm and centred in the company of someone who is negative. 2). If you are in a situation where you have to deal with negative people a lot of the time, the following technique is very useful. It is to repeat a word such as peace, awareness, I am, presence, or whatever you wish, when in their company. By doing this, you hold your own space and protect yourself against any negative attacks. Just silently repeat the word over and over, and you will find that you remain very stable and can observe the other person, in a detached way, as they express their negativity. 3). If you feel that you have negative emotion and find it difficult to keep in check, then learn to control your breathing. An ancient saying from Yoga says: When the breath is steady, so is the mind and with it the person. Practice, on a daily basis steady, slow, regular breathing. Gently fill the lungs fully, that is from the diaphragm to the top of the chest, through the nose, and let the air out slowly, either through the nose or mouth. Start with seven rounds and increase gradually. This makes you very stable. You will also be very pleased with the results in all parts of your life. 4). Another way to use the breath is when negative emotion is actually arising. Remember, during your childhood, you had to hold your breath when you were suppressing whatever went into you, and so by releasing it through the breath, you free yourself of it. Do not suppress negative emotion if it arises, but feel it fully without dumping it on anyone. Just breathe through it, letting out the energy of it through slowly breathing with full awareness. You will be amazed at how much more enjoyable your life becomes when you are not involved with negative emotion, whether it is from yourself or other people. When you learn to master it, you access a tremendous source of personal power and energy, which you can now use in any way you please. Next issue, I will give you some more of these steps and ideas. If you are interested in the new double CD with the complete information on how to create a great relationship, please email me now at film@pnc.com.au Do send me feedback if you are enjoying these bulletins and let me know if there are any other points you would like me to cover. As I receive so many emails, it can take me some time to get back to everyone, but eventually I do. *TELL A FRIEND:* Please advise your friends, who would like to subscribe to these bulletins, to go to: http://www.lifeact.com/RelationshipsFilm.htm Kind Regards, *Michael Rowland*

- Relationships Film –

Written and Directed by Michael Domeyko Rowland

www.lifeact.com

Bulletin Five

In a couple of week’s time I will have a two CD pack on how to create a great relationship. This is a brand new recording, and released to the public after the film comes out. It will be filled with all the steps you need to create a relationship that continually becomes deeper, more connected and more loving. You will have the first opportunity to receive it, and if you would like to find out all about it, or reserve your copy, please email me now on this address: film@pnc.com.au and write CD in the subject line. It will be essential and extremely interesting information about relationships.

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Relationships:

It is possible by expressing one wrong, or misunderstood behaviour, to lose your whole relationship. It is well known that many relationships break down after the first unpleasant argument, with the person under attack thinking, ‘Oh no, I’m out of here, this isn’t going to work’.

The one type of expression, which is guaranteed to destroy a relationship, is the sudden eruption of negative emotion. It is so toxic and poisonous, that it can immediately put an end to even a good relationship. What is it exactly and why does it occur?

As you grow up, unless you have very conscious parents, you have no option but to suppress your natural expression. A child’s brain is not fully wired until they are twenty-one. Before puberty, children have very little control over themselves. They are little energy balls, going through continual growth spurts and other biological effects.

When they behave in ways which are irritating or annoying to their parents or others, they are often forced to bury that behaviour. They are told off, or shouted at. This does not resolve or change the unwanted behaviour. It just gets buried.

It is just like putting a cork back on a bottle of bubbling over champagne. You can stop it bubbling over, but you do not affect or eliminate the bubbles. You just hold them in the bottle.

If this corking happens continually to a child, then the child builds a habit of suppression and repression of his or her emotions. Over time, and with the addition of continual burying of unwanted behaviours, the energy of these emotions then builds up.

If a parent adds to that suppression of the child’s behaviours by shouting, insulting, abusing, degrading or ridiculing them, then this buried emotion becomes negative, and turns into anger, rage, sadness and fear.

As we grow to adulthood, these negative emotions are locked in the subconscious. It is usually not until a person enters into a committed relationship, and the pressures involved with this, that the lid comes off, as the early patterns start to replay.

If, as an adult, you suddenly have to face an unexpected outburst of negative emotion from your partner, it feels like a knife in the guts. Your defences automatically build towards that person. You cannot open yourself to them any more, as it is unsafe.

This means that the curtain is drawn to intimacy and heart connection. It may be possible to forgive them if they are sorry about their behaviour, but if it happens again and again, then your subconscious will completely lock the door to any form of depth and energetic linkage with that person.

Dealing with negative emotion is an essential part of becoming a fully conscious person, which is another way of saying someone who is able to have a fulfilling relationship.

So, here are some ideas to help you become more able to deal with negative emotion:

1). If you are in a relationship with a person who expresses negative emotion, then you will need to become very conscious in order to deal with them. Being conscious is not the same as being loving. It means to develop more and more awareness of yourself, and your own behaviours, and ways of expressing yourself. It is necessary to observe your thoughts and feelings and the state you are in as much as you can. Become fully aware that you are a human instrument, like a piano, with each key being a different behaviour, and develop the ability to press any key you want, when you want, in the way you want. Whenever possible stay calm and centred in the company of someone who is negative.

2). If you are in a situation where you have to deal with negative people a lot of the time, the following technique is very useful. It is to repeat a word such as peace, awareness, I am, presence, or whatever you wish, when in their company. By doing this, you hold your own space and protect yourself against any negative attacks. Just silently repeat the word over and over, and you will find that you remain very stable and can observe the other person, in a detached way, as they express their negativity.

3). If you feel that you have negative emotion and find it difficult to keep in check, then learn to control your breathing. An ancient saying from Yoga says: When the breath is steady, so is the mind and with it the person. Practice, on a daily basis steady, slow, regular breathing. Gently fill the lungs fully, that is from the diaphragm to the top of the chest, through the nose, and let the air out slowly, either through the nose or mouth. Start with seven rounds and increase gradually. This makes you very stable. You will also be very pleased with the results in all parts of your life.

4). Another way to use the breath is when negative emotion is actually arising. Remember, during your childhood, you had to hold your breath when you were suppressing whatever went into you, and so by releasing it through the breath, you free yourself of it. Do not suppress negative emotion if it arises, but feel it fully without dumping it on anyone. Just breathe through it, letting out the energy of it through slowly breathing with full awareness.

You will be amazed at how much more enjoyable your life becomes when you are not involved with negative emotion, whether it is from yourself or other people. When you learn to master it, you access a tremendous source of personal power and energy, which you can now use in any way you please.

Next issue, I will give you some more of these steps and ideas.

If you are interested in the new double CD with the complete information on how to create a great relationship, please email me now at film@pnc.com.au

Do send me feedback if you are enjoying these bulletins and let me know if there are any other points you would like me to cover. As I receive so many emails, it can take me some time to get back to everyone, but eventually I do.

TELL A FRIEND:

Please advise your friends, who would like to subscribe to these bulletins, to go to:

http://www.lifeact.com/RelationshipsFilm.htm

Kind Regards,

Michael Rowland