Issue 3 Article: The Crucial Secret of a Successful Life:

Let’s define what you actually are. You are a person who lives in two worlds.  The first is the outer world of your daily life, home, work, other people, the planet and so on.  The second is the inner world that exists, so to speak, within your skin. Most people spend their life trying to create success and enjoyment by concentrating all their efforts only in the outside world.

Sometimes they succeed, and sometimes they don’t. And they don’t know why. They might make great efforts, they might do their very best, but it seems that life is stacked against them. Other people just don’t respond in the way they want them to. It does not occur to them that these responses and results may be based on something within their own self. Has this happened to you? Can you remember thinking “if only they did this or that, or behaved towards me differently, or money or career were better, then everything would be alright”.

The greatest teachers of self development have always insisted that those who wish to have a completely fulfilled life must look within, and know, themselves to the very depths of their being. Why would this be? It is because the experiences of our lives are, in the main, due to the way we express our selves, through our behaviours and actions. The more you know yourself, the more powerful, loving and successful you will become. Success, of course, means the ability to create a vital and fulfilling life.

Your behaviours and actions obviously come from within yourself. Let’s use the metaphor of music to describe you and your life. You are actually an instrument that ‘plays’ certain behaviours and actions in the ‘orchestra’ of your life (which are the other people, events and circumstances you live). And the ‘music’ that you experience in your ‘outside’ world is the result of your own ‘playing’. 

It is rather like a violin, which is out of tune, playing in a symphony orchestra.  Whatever the violin plays, however much effort the violinist puts into it, and regardless of what the violinist may think about what is happening, the music, the whole sound of the orchestra, will be out of tune. Something will seem wrong.  Now if the violinist does not know that it is his or her violin that is the problem, then they will blame the orchestra, the other instruments. 

In the same way a human being who is out of tune with themselves will mistakenly blame the outside ‘orchestra’ of their lives as being the problem - which means the other people they are in relationship with, their home, career and financial realities etc. They don’t realize that it is they themselves who need tuning up. 

Of course, this does not negate the reality that in your life there may be many other people who are out of tune with themselves, causing many parts of your life to suffer. But then you must ask yourself “Am I creating this in some way? Perhaps as a result of my own delusions, laziness or behaviours at an earlier time, and I am now having to live out the consequences”. 

Most people are so deeply conditioned, they live in a semi trance state. They become like robots, just playing out their conditioning in a mechanical way, believing that life is just doing it to them. To wake up from this automatic state is the key to all growth and change.

So the first step of a person who wants to improve any area of their life, is to realize that they are an instrument which needs tuning up. Let’s now see what is necessary to do this:
 

The Solution is as Follows:

1). Step one: Take your attention from your outside world to your inner one. This means enter into a period of self investigation each day.  Choose a time, maybe every three hours or so, and, for a minute or two observe yourself. Watch the behaviours you are expressing, consider why it is that you are doing what you are doing, and behaving in the way you are behaving. Observe your body language, how you feel, the tone of your voice, any muscular tensions, or holding patterns, and anything else that occurs to you. The more you know yourself, the more you can understand other people and, very importantly, the more you realize exactly how human society works.  As you do this, quite spontaneously, your quality of life improves. You are learning to play the game of human life with more and more consciousness. You become very aware of the ‘out-of-tuneness’ that other people suffer. Just a little of this activity of self investigation pays tremendous dividens in improving your consciousness.

2). This self investigation also means, in particular, that you must understand your personality, because it is your personality that motivates your actions and behaviours. People who understand their personality and realise that it is made up of many different parts or ‘selves’ as they are known in psychology, have far more insight into their relationships, careers and the financial aspects of society. They can escape their negative conditioning, they become more intuitive, there have more insight, they are better at communicating, and they find it much easier to create themselves and their lives in the way they want them to be. Knowledge of the personality and subpersonalities is crucial understanding for a person on a real self development path. Becoming more aware of your subpersonalities will give you a tremendous personal power. Each day, try to identify at least one of your primary selves, your main methods of expressing yourself. Build up a picture of these selves and realise that they are faculties that you have, not who or what you are. This is a giant step for many people, as they identify very strongly with these surface subpersonalities.

3). The next aspect of yourself is your emotional life.  Many people are blocked emotionally, and many others are very emotional, which means they have no control of their emotions. The normal way of dealing with emotions – via expressing them - does not necessarily bring emotional freedom. The reason is that the word ‘emotion’ comes from ‘e-motion’, which is ‘energy in motion’. It is a distortion of the energy system which gives rise to what is known in ordinary terms as negative emotions. It is the energy system itself that needs working on, rather than the negative ‘explosions’ of those restrictions. An emotion, in a healthy person, is like a wave that builds up and then expresses itself onto the beach, disappearing forever. It should not be submerged in the subconscious, festering like a sore, waiting to explode.

This is why you find, in the ancient civilizations of the East, concentration on directly freeing the energy system, rather than travelling down the long, and often unfulfilling track of analysing the blocked or extreme emotions.  It is fine to express emotions, like waves onto the beach. But it is vital to clear the original contraction that causes negative and uncontrolled emotion. Otherwise, you will be like a repeating record, playing out the same emotions all your life. I’m sure you know people who are always in the grip of their emotions and have no control of themselves.  This is victim consciousness, and it is a useless state for someone who is on a path of more awareness. So how do you do this?

4). There are many ways to free your energy system. Proper training in one of the martial arts can do it, or other deliberate physical activities such as conscious dancing, traditional yoga postures, Tai Chi or similar disciplines. There are some therapies that can be helpful, but only if they develop what is known as the ‘Aware Ego’. Otherwise they can just be the continual replay of a problem, rather than the discovery of a solution (For information about the Aware Ego, check out the website on Voice Dialogue, mentioned above in the relationships section).

But the simplest and most effective is regular chanting in the ancient languages, such as Sanskrit or Latin.  When performed properly, this is very enjoyable, as it awakens your heart and flushes out any buried negativity. You always need to also concentrate on your body and mind, but also remember energy freeing. It is an activity which is often overlooked.

5). Next, it is very important to use your mind to create your life through proper research and planning. You have been set up, by your conditioning, to live out certain experiences. It is necessary to ensure that the actions and behaviours you are living out will deliver for you a better life than the one you were conditioned to have. If you have attended any of our seminars, or heard the audio lessons, or read my book ‘Absolute Happiness’, you will know the many ways to do this. Always consciously plan your life. This is the unavoidable first step of any improvements or progress in any life path.  

6).  Finally, as always, meditate.  Meditation means inner concentration. It is only inner concentration, without effort, which will take you to your true or higher Self.  Most of us are caught in the web of the personality structure.  We all need to access our essence or highest part of our being. This is also known as the True Self.  The more you practice meditation, mixed with chanting and physical activity, the better your life will become. Increasing the duration of your inner concentration is the secret of meditation. If you want to really improve your creativity, behaviours and actions, then is necessary to draw more of your essential nature from the heights of your mind, and bring it to the surface.  Meditation does this automatically. As you do this, all of your life spontaneously becomes better and better, and it feels as though you are living with the support of a far higher intelligence that responds accurately and specifically to your every need. It is an amazing way to live.

So go within, tune up your instrument, practice self development and have a great life!